Sent into a tailspin, finding equilibrium: Coping with other people’s responses to our grief.

What words or actions by others have made your grief easier to bear? What words or actions – or inaction – by others have made things more difficult? – A reflection on finding our keep our equilibrium even in the midst of the storm of silly statements, insensitive questions, and thoughtless behaviour.

Living with loss, but living with hope

Like many others, I have been closely following the heartbreaking story of little Alfie Evans, the small child whose brain has apparently been destroyed by disease, and whose parents have fought long and hard against the removal of life support by the hospital. By the time I post this, or you read it, chances are…

The unfinished scarf

There’s a bag in my home office containing knitting needles and a ball of wool attached to a big chunky unfinished grey scarf. Catherine’s handiwork. She hadn’t been a knitter but on one of her visits home I reintroduced her to the pleasing and relaxing activity of knitting. She had gone away with the wool…

“Finding closure” and “moving on” – a Good Friday reflection.

(Reprint of my article first published on “GodInterest.com” – a Christian perspective, looking at some of the clichés around grief and questioning whether they would have been appropriate words to comfort the followers and mother of Jesus on the day of his death. A short reflection to challenge the Christian community to travel better with…