Subject index

SITE GUIDES

Pages with a collection of articles on a particular topic. Each of these pages has a list of articles and a short summary of what they’re about. 

Shocked! Heartbroken! Readings for the newly bereaved 

• A collection of articles especially selected for the newly bereaved who are struggling with the initial impact of their loss.

Memories and Continuing Bonds

• A collection of blog posts and articles on the topic of our new relationship of memory with our loved one, and includes some of the ‘‘theory’ behind  ‘continuing bonds’.

The unique pain of child bereavement: Readings for parents 

• Some articles on the impact of losing a child and surviving this agonising bereavement.

Grief and your health

• A lot of people struggle with their health following bereavement. This post links to articles about the impact that grief can have on our health and ideas of what we can do about it.

Grief is a type of journey – but it’s no walk in the park

• A series of articles on parallels between grief and journeys. Some are specifically about “The Way” – the popular network of “Camino” pilgrimage routes in Spain – but other routes in the UK are included. Most importantly, this isn’t really about walking or journeying, but about living with loss.

 

INDIVIDUAL ARTICLES 

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Living with loss: when a loved one dies

• Funerals and the grief that endures
• Before and after: anticipating the death of a loved one, coping when they die
• Goodbyes unspoken: Coping with sudden death
• To love & be loved – the value of a life is not measured by time
• Shocked! Heartbroken! Readings for the newly bereaved 

 

Your life after their death

• The long road of grief & the dangers of losing hope (sorry, there aren’t 5 stages)
• Death and changing values
• Plotting the future; priorities in a grief journey
• The intensity of grief eventually changes
•  Dealing with the ‘if’s of grief
• Waking up
• The Calendar of Grief

 

Getting support when you’re grieving

• Internet support forums – pros and cons
• Finding companionship in grief
• Grief counselling – it can help

• Mental health: Is the glass half-full, half-empty or something else instead?

 

Life strategies – some ideas for helping yourself 

• A ten minute trip in time and space
• Finding calm in the rough seas of grief
• Grief and the art of reinvention
• The Soundtrack of Grief, Part 1
• Starting again after loss — can it be done?

Coping with “special days” – birthdays, Christmas, anniversaries

• Coping with the first anniversary
• Christmas is nearly upon us. How do we cope when we’re grieving?
• Not failing at Christmas
• Christmas perplexities if you’re living with loss
• At the dawning of a new year
• Getting ready for Christmas, when the one you love is no longer here
• Teardrops replacing baubles: “Say their name at Christmas”
• Grieving on Mother’s Day

Particular challenges

• Bereaved of a loved one with mental illness or disorder
• After death discoveries: The good, the bad, the ugly
• Grieving multiple losses
• Inquests (in England and Wales)
• The special difficulties of losing a loved one when they are abroad

 

Family and friends 

• Words matter: the language of grief
• Families fractured by grief: differences and difficulties

• Sent into a tailspin, finding equilibrium: Coping with other people’s responses to our grief.

 

How long is this going to last?

• Why hitchhiking is not like grief

• The Window that Vanished
• The longevity of grief: Mind the gap

 

PARTICULAR TYPES OF LOSSES

• Women & grief: Wives, mothers, sisters, daughters

Losing a partner

• One step at a time; life and grief after the loss of a partner.
• Coping with the loss of a partner

Sudden deaths, including by suicide

• Bereaved by suicide

Mental illness & those with troubled lives

• Bereaved of a loved one with mental illness or disorder
• Mental health: It’s not “in your head”; it’s actually in the brain
• Judgement, criticism and grief
• Is the glass half-full, half-empty or something else instead? 
• A difficult life; a sad ending
• Death following mental health treatment

 

CHRISTIAN PERSPECTIVES ON GRIEF AND LOSS

• Cover article from Lee Abbey Magazine: Grief, a Journey Through the Seasons
• Easter hopes – whispers and shouts
• Grieving “senseless” death – when nothing is as it should be
• From Palm Sunday to Easter: The language of grief
• Dreams and dreaming when you’re grieving
• Out of the depths
• The little mercies of grief
• Living with loss, but living with hope
• Spring equinox; grief at Easter
• Mourning deeply
• Alongside one another

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SOME PERSONAL STORIES

• The pausing of grief
• Profound joy, profound sadness
• The Before and After-ness of grief
• Scotland tour: Memorials, grief and love
• Pax is 38 today! Happy Birthday!
• Time to grieve, space for a breather
• Tiles on an old church roof
• The shipping forecast

My story

• Grieving for my two children (My Story- Part 1)
• The Holocaust – My story, Part 2

 

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ON SUPPORTING OTHER PEOPLE WHO ARE GRIEVING – “GRIEF COMPANIONSHIP”

Visit the Grief Companion website

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(This page last updated 17/9/19)