Subject index

Here is a topical list of articles on this blog.  (Updated 19/3/19)

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TABLE OF CONTENTS

• Living with Loss: Finding the way through grief
• The Forward View
• Particular types of loss (Children, sudden death including by suicide, widows/widowers, those with mental illness or troubled lives)
  
• Christian perspectives on grief and loss
• Personal perspectives

 

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LIVING WITH LOSS: FINDING THE WAY THROUGH GRIEF

Life and survival strategies

• Feeling vulnerable is common when we’re grieving
• Be kind to yourself!
• A ten minute trip in time and space
• Being kind to yourself
• Survival strategies
• Deck of cards and unbottling
• Coping with tiredness
• Dealing with sleeplessness
• Finding the stillness in grief
• Bird-watching and grief
• The pausing of grief
• Waking up
• Self-identities and taking a break from grief
• On the freshly – painted bench
• Is the glass half-full, half-empty or something else instead?

Our unique experience of loss

• Life-changing loss: Walking a different path, missing a limb
• If: Dealing with the ‘if’s of grief
• The uniqueness of each grief experience
• Grieving: Nature’s way of helping a broken heart

The emotional rollercoaster

• Feeling vulnerable is common when we’re grieving
• No way forwards, no way back: Getting stuck
• Griefbursts: Moments of mad grief
• Is your grief a muddy river?

• Confused grief: It’s okay to cry
• The salve of pessimism: Taking life a moment at a time
• Problems of positive thinking and grief

“Continuing bonds” – relationship through memory

• Keepsakes – remembering with love
• Remembering with love on All Soul’s Day
• Capturing memories
• “The phone calls I made to my dead daughter” (BBC article)
• Mamma Mia!
• A focal point for grief (and a poem)
• The next time someone advises you to “move on”, send them here to learn about “continuing bonds”
• Memory treasures: Photos
• The unfinished scarf
• Thomas Steinbeck, Chow Yong Fat and digital legacies
• Digital Legacy: Accessing the digital world of your loved one
• Vic’s bedside picture
• Missing
• The geography of grief

Coping with “special days” – birthdays, Christmas, anniversaries

• Christmas is nearly upon us. How do we cope when we’re grieving?
• Not failing at Christmas
• Christmas perplexities if you’re living with loss
• At the dawning of a new year
• Getting ready for Christmas, when the one you love is no longer here
• Teardrops replacing baubles: “Say their name at Christmas”

Particular challenges

• Grieving “senseless” death – when nothing is as it should be
• Bereaved of a loved one with mental illness or disorder
• After death discoveries: The good, the bad, the ugly
• Links between grief and poor health
• Grieving multiple losses
• Inquests (in England and Wales)
• The special difficulties of losing a loved one when they are abroad

Family and friends 

• Words matter: the language of grief
• Tickling the tomatoes; families and grief.

• Sent into a tailspin, finding equilibrium: Coping with other people’s responses to our grief.

THE FORWARD VIEW

Getting support when you’re grieving

• Internet support forums – pros and cons
• Finding companionship in grief
• The solidarity of grief
• Grief counselling – it can help

The forward view

• Walking the Way – Part 1
• Death and changing values
• Why hitchhiking is not like grief
• Plotting the future; priorities in a grief journey
• Starting again after loss — can it be done?
• Barnie the dog, & a reflection on the future of grief.
• The path of aloneness: we can manage

How long is this going to last?

• How long is this going to last? When’s the grieving over?
• The Window that Vanished
• The Calendar of Grief
• The longevity of grief: Mind the gap

 

PARTICULAR TYPES OF LOSSES

• Women & grief: Wives, mothers, sisters, daughters

 

Parents losing a child or children

• The muddled timeline of premature death (Pax is 40 today)
• A story that is sad but true: The painful path of the bereaved parent
• The bereaved father
• Parents with no surviving children: “Aging without children”
• Loss and loneliness – more on “Aging without children”
• Grieving on Mother’s Day
• Mothering Sunday post for bereaved mothers: Our children live on in us
• The poetry of grief
• Profound joy, profound sadness

Losing a partner

• One step at a time; life and grief after the loss of a partner.
• Coping with the loss of a partner

Sudden deaths, including by suicide

• Everything changed in a moment – grieving sudden death.
• The pain of sudden death
• Bereaved by suicide
• Explanation about the Bereaved by Suicide Retreat, January 2019 (PDF download)
• Bereaved by suicide – a supported retreat

Mental illness & those with troubled lives

• Bereaved of a loved one with mental illness or disorder
• Mental health: It’s not “in your head”; it’s actually in the brain
• Judgement, criticism and grief
• Is the glass half-full, half-empty or something else instead? 
• A difficult life; a sad ending
• Death following mental health treatment

 

CHRISTIAN PERSPECTIVES ON GRIEF AND LOSS

• Dreams and dreaming when you’re grieving
• Grieving for my two children (My Story- Part 1)
• Out of the depths
• The little mercies of grief
• Living with loss, but living with hope
• “Finding closure” and “moving on” – a Good Friday reflection.
• Spring equinox; grief at Easter
• Mourning deeply
• Alongside one another
• Breathless waiting

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SOME PERSONAL PERSPECTIVES

• Profound joy, profound sadness
• The Before and After-ness of grief
• The aloneness of grief
• Perspectives: reading the view (A walk in the Lake District)
• Scotland tour: Memorials, grief and love
• Pax is 38 today! Happy Birthday!
• Time to grieve, space for a breather
• Tiles on an old church roof
• The shipping forecast
• Trying something new

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ON SUPPORTING OTHER PEOPLE WHO ARE GRIEVING – “GRIEF COMPANIONSHIP”

Visit the Grief Companion website

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(This page last updated 1/2/19)

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