This post is another side to the subject of memorialising. It looks at those who have very good reasons for not wanting to keep on remembering. Living with loss does not only mean coping with the death of a person. It can also mean coping with the loss of what a relationship should have been.…
Recently I gave an interview to a magazine regarding the ‘Living with Loss’ project and how it came about. This is something I often reflect upon, especially since the project has grown beyond anything I could have imagined. Of course it all starts with my children. This is a bit more of my story and…
This is the third instalment of ideas for coping with Christmas. If we are being tossed senseless on a sea of emotions – sometimes gasping for breath, sometimes down in the depths – who can we talk with? Who will listen? If we are not fortunate enough to have understanding friends and family at our…
Do you sometimes struggle to remember happy times? Is the sadness of your loved one’s passing overwhelming you? Here’s an idea about creating a memory board, but first a personal reflection: Awhile back I embarked on a project of making more space in my home office, and began by going through my bookshelves. It’s amazing…
This is a follow up to my earlier post about coping with Christmas and is meant for those who are struggling with any aspect of this season. It’s a buffet – see if there is anything that appeals to you. For a start, here’s something for those who are alone at Christmas This is an…
This post is mostly for those who have a religious faith or belong to a religion, such as Christianity. It looks at how the pain of our grief can sometimes be dismissed or minimised by others within our community of faith because of a focus on the ‘next life.’ Missing our loved ones is the…
The hoopla of the Christmas season has arrived in full force now. If you are someone who is eagerly looking forward to the coming month and Christmas itself, you might not relate with the following. But for many people who are grieving – particularly in the early years following their bereavement – Christmas is something…
