Recently I’ve met a few people who are within the first year of their bereavement, which means the first anniversary of their loved one’s death is approaching. I write this post for them and any others who are facing the same. I really don’t remember the first anniversary of my son Pax’s death, and I’m…
Life doesn’t often seem fair. How do you feel about it today? The stacked deck John and I play cards sometimes, for amusement only, never for money, and usually only when we’re on holiday for some reason. The game I prefer is “500”. The first player to score 500 wins. The digit cards (2-9) each…
Losing a loved one can be utterly life-shattering. Nothing seems the same anymore because most things are not the same. One of the changes that can hit really hard, particularly if you’re usually a person who is on top of things, is how your self-confidence can take a big tumble. It is as though the foundations…
“The Way” often refers to the popular network of pilgrimage routes in Spain, the Camino de Santiago, that lead to the Compostela to Santiago (Cathedral of St James). That is more or less the subject of this series of posts. Let’s start at the beginning. Have I walked the Way? The French Camino (about 700…
Being kind to yourself, taking care of yourself, allowing yourself to be happy are essential if you are living with loss.
Did you see the BBC article about the language used to describe cancer? “Cancer clichés to avoid: I’m not brave” Words also matter when you’re grieving, and it can be a bit of a minefield for people around you. At my retreats, we often do an activity where people give examples of the unhelpful things…
Why would someone create a 40th birthday card with a little teddy bear? I don’t know what the designer was thinking of, but this card was ideal for me to buy for Pax to celebrate his 40th on 3rd January 2019. Pax, my son, the little boy who died at barely 3 1/2 years old,…
