Are there some things that are making your grief harder to bear? External factors can make our lives even more difficult. Grief is hard enough in itself. The memories that come unbidden; the ache of loss and loneliness; the unanswered questions. Thoughts that filter through our minds; emotions that arrived unexpectedly; dreams that disturb. Reminders…
This is the third instalment of ideas for coping with Christmas. If we are being tossed senseless on a sea of emotions – sometimes gasping for breath, sometimes down in the depths – who can we talk with? Who will listen? If we are not fortunate enough to have understanding friends and family at our…
A few more ideas for coping with the Christmas season. Click here for the first part of this series Each idea below is different in its own way. If these are not relevant for you, maybe you know someone else who could benefit – so please do pass them on. Go for a walk…
Do you sometimes struggle to remember happy times? Is the sadness of your loved one’s passing overwhelming you? Here’s an idea about creating a memory board, but first a personal reflection: Awhile back I embarked on a project of making more space in my home office, and began by going through my bookshelves. It’s amazing…
This is a follow up to my earlier post about coping with Christmas and is meant for those who are struggling with any aspect of this season. It’s a buffet – see if there is anything that appeals to you. For a start, here’s something for those who are alone at Christmas This is an…
The hoopla of the Christmas season has arrived in full force now. If you are someone who is eagerly looking forward to the coming month and Christmas itself, you might not relate with the following. But for many people who are grieving – particularly in the early years following their bereavement – Christmas is something…
Recently I wrote about the aloneness of grief, but there is another side to the story which is the topic of this post: finding some relief from the loneliness of grief. There is a certain solidarity amongst those who are bereaved in somewhat similar circumstances – a level of understanding that might not exist in…
