Recently I wrote about the aloneness of grief, but there is another side to the story which is the topic of this post: finding some relief from the loneliness of grief. There is a certain solidarity amongst those who are bereaved in somewhat similar circumstances – a level of understanding that might not exist in…
A.B.C.D.E.F.G. Letters of the alphabet. Arrange them into words and we find meaning. Heal – “Cause (a wound, injury, or person) to become sound or healthy again.” Recover – “to bring back to normal position or condition”. Rehabilitate – “to restore or bring to a condition of health or useful and constructive activity” Integrate –…
A short post from a Christian viewpoint. It is an additional comment on an earlier post on Families fractured by grief: differences and difficulties. Sometimes after the death of a loved one there are disputes regarding the will, and about what has been left to whom. This seems to be a common theme in literature – think…
It seems to be a time of year for remembering. All Soul’s Day, All Saints Day and Remembrance Sunday are around the corner. “Good people are remembered long after they are gone” the Bible tells us. (Proverbs 10:7 CEV) What is goodness but love? What is grief but a continuation of love? I enjoy that…
A reflection on finding peace in the inner spaces of our mind whilst we grieve. Inner spaces. We each have our own. It is within our inner spaces that we experience the “aloneness of grief” rather than “loneliness”, as you can be alone and lonely, but you can also be alone and glad to be…
As the parent of a child who died an avoidable death, we might be highly motivated to campaign for change. This is an appropriate way of honouring our child’s memory.
But we should be aware that the heights of passion and defiance that are energising us now will likely be followed by low times.
Whether we “succeed” or not in our campaign , ultimately we are faced with the sadness of our child’s absence. Finding how to live without them is the challenge we now face.
I see the grief journey as being in two main strands. One strand is the living with grief aspect. Surviving, finding ways to cope with the heartbreak and maelstrom of emotions, as well as the practical changes, that our loss has brought. It’s the “be kind to yourself” strand. The other strand is remembering with…
