We didn’t choose the loss of our loved one. How do we proceed in this ‘new normal’ of our life? “Living with a life-changing loss”. The clue is in the name: life-changing. We are forever changed by the losses we experience in our lives. A child, a partner, or a close friend or other relative who…
This is a practical post for those grieving the loss of a partner, reflecting on how to cope with some of the many adjustments to be made. We have a future to be reached step-by-step.
The countdown has well and truly started. In just one month’s time, I’ll be walking the Camino – The Way – a pilgrimage route starting in Porto and finishing in Santiago de Compostela in Spain. Together with my friend Margaret, we hope to walk all 280 kms, all being well. My main motive for walking…
Are there some things that are making your grief harder to bear? External factors can make our lives even more difficult. Grief is hard enough in itself. The memories that come unbidden; the ache of loss and loneliness; the unanswered questions. Thoughts that filter through our minds; emotions that arrived unexpectedly; dreams that disturb. Reminders…
(Site Guide No. 6) For a short while after our loved one dies, many of us are busy with taking care of necessary tasks, and these often involve other people. Their death must be registered; funeral arrangements must be made; friends and family will need to be informed. Days rush by in a blur; we…
This post is another side to the subject of memorialising. It looks at those who have very good reasons for not wanting to keep on remembering. Living with loss does not only mean coping with the death of a person. It can also mean coping with the loss of what a relationship should have been.…
Another post on the theme of grief as a journey. Living in the present might be the only way to cope with the feelings of pessimism that often overshadow us in our grief. Photos and story of a walk on the Dane Valley Way. “Ultreia!” is one of the familiar greetings on the Camino de…
