The pausing of grief

I wrote about the relentless waves of grief in my book, but as ever, there is another side. Waves move incessantly, but they not only push forward, but sometimes they draw back. Sometimes the wind and unseen forces drive the waves so they crash  loudly foaming on the shore. Other times they arrive at the…

The solidarity of grief

Recently I wrote about the aloneness of grief, but there is another side to the story which is the topic of this post: the solidarity of grief. It is remarkable how much more aware we become of other people’s death and loss after our own loss. Catherine, my daughter, took her own life. Ever since,…