The solidarity of grief

Recently I wrote about the aloneness of grief, but there is another side to the story which is the topic of this post: the solidarity of grief. It is remarkable how much more aware we become of other people’s death and loss after our own loss. Catherine, my daughter, took her own life. Ever since,…

The 7 p.m. Candle

There are some homes here in the UK–houses and flats, scattered around, with no geographical limit–that have a candle ready on the first of each month. Then, at 7 p.m. the candle is lit. Who are the candle-lighters? They’re not members of a religious group or a political party — at least not collectively –individually they…