The Before and After-ness of grief

The death of a loved one is a break in time. There will always be a before and after. It can be as much of a personal marker as B.C. and A.D.  is on our calendars. 


Pax is 38 today! Happy Birthday!

Pax was born punctually on schedule on 3 January 1982 in Karachi, Pakistan (where I’d been teaching English with my first husband) Pax is 38 today. Hard to believe. I imagine he’s medium height, average build, still with that smile and somewhat cheeky eyes. But I don’t know for sure what an adult Pax looks like,…