There is no magical destination where grief ends, but there are places on the journey that are not as difficult as others. When we’re feeling hopeless, it’s time to search them out.
If grief is a journey on a tumultuous sea, how can we find calm? Picture a small boat on a rough sea, tossed and battered by the waves. The boat is your life, and you’re a passenger. You’re trying to guide the boat, but there are some circumstances beyond your control. The sea is your…
One of my biggest challenges when I go on one of my adventurous country rambles is finding the way. Some paths or trails are well sign-posted but not always. There is often an amount of map-reading involved, but even with maps and a compass, and an excellent map app & GPS on my smartphone, if…
Grief and the art of reinvention. “The new normal” is a phrase often used in grief circles. It carries the idea that following bereavement, not only are your circumstances changed, but you are too. It can happen suddenly or it might be more subtle. How we react to what is going on around us might…
A walk around a lake and some thoughts about letting other people share in our journey. And some photos. There’s a walk I’ve been enjoying on occasion ever since we moved to this part of England. Rudyard Lake is a reservoir 10 miles up the road from home. There’s a nice path that goes around,…
A personal post. It is May 27th, and exactly 37 years since Pax, my little son, died aged 3 in a hospital in Bhopal, India. In less than 4 weeks, it is my daughter Catherine s birthday. She is turning 39, something I find hard to conceive as she was just weeks off her 31st…
It is generally recognised that the death of a child is one of the very worst bereavements and the worst type of pain. Nobody expects to bury their son or daughter. The unique agony of a bereaved parent is close to my heart. My work supporting people who are grieving is a direct consequence of…
