Responses from “Living with Loss” retreat participants

Living with Loss retreats are a safe space to explore issues relating to your grief, in company with others who are also grieving. The retreats include led activities, discussions and opportunities for quiet, personal reflection. Our next retreats are in the Greenhouse in Poole, Launde Abbey in Leicestershire, and the Briery in Ilkley. 

Here are a few comments from people who have taken part.


“What were your highlights from the retreat?”

The sessions were very sensitively presented, giving me time to think that all that I was feeling was okay. We were in lovely comfortable surroundings, and the group of people were so lovely. I loved Abi.

I found the session with the candles* most moving. 

Sharing and listening to others who have experienced the same loss as I have. The Candelit reflection* was very moving. Life Strategies on the final morning was very useful for the onward journey.

I found the group to be very friendly. The quiet times and venue very helpful. 

Sessions – making us work through thoughts and emotions – listening to others – learning from others.

I loved the inclusion of music and the Prayer Session.* Also to learn how similar our feelings were within the group. I am not ‘odd’ in my experience. 

Discussion formal and informal with others, what experiences we had in common. I am not alone in these feelings.

(I was surprised to learn)…the need to be ‘me’. I can grieve in the way I want to. 

Quiet times of reflection.

It was all good. We were able to laugh which was good. 

Handouts were very helpful, information given too, as one can only take in so much at the time and it was good to have practical things to do. Abi’s illustrations and anecdotes were always relevant and illuminating. The sessions went by very quickly for me. At first I didn’t think the afternoon ‘craft’ / workshop type activities would work but I’m glad I joined in. There was a good atmosphere throughout – confidentiality respected, opinions valued, everyone was accepted. I was grateful for an opportunity to be prayed for.

The quiet, tranquil surroundings. 

Really appreciated how varied each day’s content was.

*The “candle-lighting” evening was a time of prayers, reflections and songs of remembrance of our loved ones, and hope for the journey ahead.

“Any other comments?”

I am very pleased that I came. The group were very open, supportive and friendly and I felt comfortable. Abi, you created a safe/sacred place that enabled people to speak their truth without hesitation or fear of criticism or judgement. Thank you!

It hurt like hell, but it was truly beautiful. Thank you so much. 

I thought Abi led the sessions with sensitivity and compassion. It was obvious she had ‘been there’. I liked how she shared her story.

Abi – you have been a wonderful, warm and insightful leader. 

Thank you so much for a balanced mix of info, discussion, craft, symbolism, etc.

As I look for a new place to live, a new church, etc, I will know that others have done this and will feel encouraged. 

This was a first class retreat which I found extremely helpful. I will definitely do Part 2.

I had no idea, really, what to expect this week. I am returning home feeling assured that I will survive and continue to take ‘small steps’ on my journey. 

“If someone was thinking about attending a Living with Loss event, what would you tell them?”

It is well worth (attending a Living with Loss retreat) no matter what your experience, or the length of time since your bereavement. You will not be pressurised in any way or at any time and you will find yourself in an environment which is supportive and kind, and where you can just be yourself. It will undoubtedly be helpful for you.” (Annette from Surrey)

Don’t put off coming on this course. Don’t hesitate. You will benefit enormously. You will be treated with love, care, respect, gentleness and kindness. You will be heard.

I would say, it is emotional, stay with it and I can assure you that you will feel so much better after (this time) in Abi’s care and her teaching.

Definitely consider it! Seeing the journey we have been on (for the past 5 weeks), everyone has learnt something and moved forward in coping with grief.

I would advise them to contact Abi and Do it!

I would definitely encourage them to come. This Retreat has been inspiring and a step forward into all that God has for us in the years ahead – a life worth living and enjoying.

I felt that Abi was just right to lead this retreat because I felt she knew from her own experience just what we were going through.

Find out more about upcoming Living with Loss retreats, including details for booking, by clicking here: Living with Loss Retreats


A retreat is an opportunity to reflect in company with others. The light coloured letters tell what is helping us through our grief. The dark coloured letters tell what is making life more difficult. 





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