This post is a follow on to the previous article on depression, treatment, and the depressed Christian.
Celebrity deaths by suicide often precipitate another round of public discussion about depression, mental illness, and the importance of talking about our problems and not just keeping everything inside. There are other topics that come out too, such as how vital it is that the press follow best practice guidelines in their reporting to help minimise the possibility of copycat suicides. The guidelines suggested by the Samaritans are particularly helpful in this regard, and this is a link that is worthwhile “clicking on” if you are interested in this aspect.
The death of a loved one to suicide is widely acknowledged as being one of the most difficult bereavements to cope with, and I can certainly attest to that, having lost my daughter in this way. Talking with another mother recently who was similarly bereaved has prompted me to organise a special Living with Loss retreat in 2019 for “Christians Bereaved by Suicide.”
This retreat will follow the usual Living with Loss themes, but with specific emphasis on those who are grieving following the loss of a family member (not necessarily a child) or friend as a result of suicide. Loss in this way is so sudden; your life changes dramatically from one moment to the next. There is so much left unsaid and undone; there is so much room for “what if’s” and “if only’s” and self-questioning. If you’re reading this, having been bereaved in this way, I’m sure you will relate.
I will be posting more details about that retreat when I find the location and fix the dates – please follow this blog to keep in touch about it, or let me know if this is something you’d be interested in attending (or hosting!), as if I get comments in advance, it might influence where I hold the event.
If you think you might be interested in this event, please visit this link for a short survey. Thank you.
And this is an article about “sudden death”, which is mostly definitely applicable to those bereaved by suicide.
Handy link with all the info about Living with Loss retreats, including both for those who would like to attend or host an event
Update 17/7/18: I now have a location and date for the first “Christians Bereaved by Suicide” Living with Loss retreat. Date: 18-20th January 2019. Location: The Greenhouse Christian Centre in Poole, Dorset. Please see the retreat page for more details. It isn’t yet open for booking but you can register your interest by getting in touch with me.
P.S. By the way, as I’ve mentioned Samaritans in the previous article – I’m just getting ready to do a charity walk on their behalf. I walk at this time of year in memory of my children Pax and Catherine. You can find out more and sponsor me here: